We had just started getting into a bit of a rhythm in blogging at the beginning of the summer, and then we began our traveling adventures. Our adventures started by visiting our youngest daughter and a nephew and niece in Pennsylvania and then we flew to Dublin, Ireland, in mid-July. For the past two months we have been traveling around Western Europe on a tight budget with our possessions in two 30 liter backpacks. We’ve travelled in Ireland, Scotland, England, and now Spain.
While being so immersed in our incredible adventures and moving from place to place, we mostly neglected finishing the steps involved in publishing our book and entirely neglected posting on this blog. We did spend several days in the quiet countryside of south-central Ireland working on the book, discovering the realities of publishing were considerably more complex and time consuming than we had imagined. We were also frustrated by the inconsistent internet service there.
Toward the end of August, we felt the urgency to actually publish our book, Bring Out The Best In Others. Staying in one place for a while seemed to be the only way to accomplish this. Thus, we planned to stay two weeks in Barcelona and are now in the middle of our third week here. Our book was published a few days ago and its official launch is Monday, September 16. We are finally writing a new post.
The idea to write this book emerged nearly three-years-ago during our initial travels in Costa Rica and Panama. (You can learn more about this in our June 26, 2018 post, An Origin Story)
Our current travels have reinforced and expanded the ideas we wrote about in the book. So, we have decided to focus on reviewing and extending these ideas in our next series of posts.
Asking For Help
Bring Out The Best In Others briefly discusses asking for help as a way to connect with people and bring out their best. We find ourselves lost and clueless in all sorts of ways as we travel to new and strange places. Although we have become more expert using Google Maps to find our way, there have been many times it is not enough.
For instance, when we first arrived in Edinburgh, Scotland, figuring out the correct bus stop to get to Roslin (where our Airbnb was located) was challenging. Several people helped guide us to the correct stop to catch the bus. We had learned that although Roslin was only seven miles from Edinburgh city centre, there would be 59 stops before ours. After getting on the correct bus, we started conversing with two older ladies sitting behind us. After communicating our confusion, they were eager to help us and assured us we would find the correct exit. We became their project. Since they were getting off the bus before us, they passed us on to their friends and those friends passed on to others. The “network” made sure we were informed to get off the bus at the correct stop. As we got off the bus and started looking around for our Airbnb, another woman, who had heard much of the conversation, pointed us in the right direction.
We talked to several women at length during the hour-long bus ride. After sharing that we had been living in Panama the past several years, one woman told us about how her husband had worked on the Panama Canal and was well-known for engineering work around Scotland.
We believe that most people want to help others and will go out of their way to do so when asked to. But you have to ask. Although there have been a few instances where our clueless looks and behavior have prompted others to ask, “Can I help you?”, generally, you need to ask.
The above example is a relatively trivial example. We hope you will also consider asking for help in serious situations. It’s probably most important to ask for help from others when you feel like withdrawing from all human relationships.
We’d love to hear your experiences in asking for help (in the comments below).